This ‘Friends’ theory will change everything you loved about Ross and Rachel

Everyone wants to be Ross and Rachel from Friends. You want to believe in that love story, that, come what may, gets a happy ending. It’s stood the test of time as one of the most iconic onscreen relationships – but some people have other ideas.

While low-key rumors have been buzzing on and around the series since the end of its 10-season run, a fresh Twitter thread has just brought up the unspoken what if we’re all thinking of – should Rachel have ended up with Joey instead of Ross?

While Ross and Rachel were infamously on a break, a fleeting romance blossomed with Joey. No more than a subplot, only now is its true meaning being really questioned.

In 100 careful individual tweets, Claire Willett (@kaneandgriffin) gave a thorough explanation in favor of the pairing. With logic, care and humor, she explained why logically Rachel belongs with Joey.

Before getting into details, Willett warns that she is not a fan of Ross Geller in any way shape or form, which obviously helps the following argument. She sees the distracting subplot between Rachel and Joey as the actual meaningful relationship and lays out three clear arguments for it.

1. Ross never saw Rachel as a Friend, but Joey did

Her first point highlights how the Ross-Rachel relationship wasn’t meant to be, because Ross never considered Rachel as a friend, always as a romantic conquest. Whereas Joey stands out as a valuable and genuine friend.

Willett goes on to highlight Ross’ flaws: he is possessive, anxious and ever worried about his relationship with Rachel. No big news flash there really. Willet warns against the “nice guys” like Ross, in favor of the “openly promiscuous” types, like Joey.

If we then go back in the series, the thread remembers how Joey developed feelings for Rachel while she was pregnant. This, Willett explains, speaks louder than Ross’ borderline obsessive nostalgic obsession.

The pair’s potential bond becomes apparent through spending more time together, and a natural shift in the relationship, Willett says. A genuine friendship born out of being roommates is given a romantic flavor on the fake date, which is what makes the real thing suddenly seem possible.

2. Rachel deserved someone who understands why her career is important to her

The feminist in Willett grows louder. Having established the natural connection between Rachel and Joey, she highlights why he would be a much better match for her, in supporting other areas of her life.

She explains that Ross was simply an agent of sabotage towards Rachel’s career. Perhaps an inkling of a La La Land-esque dilemma, it seemed that Ross only had his eye on the romantic prize. And Willet isn’t standing for it.

And then, a refreshing turn down memory lane – we are reminded that it was actually Joey that got Rachel her first break in the fashion industry, thus kickstarting her career. It seems then that the argument for the relatable struggling artists could be made with this pairing.

This theory would see Rachel and Joey finding common ground in pursuing their dream ambition.

When Rachel got the job in Paris, Willett reminds us that everyone around her encouraged her to go and pursue her fate professionally. Apparently, they all did – except for Ross. Not so La La Land anymore, huh?

As well as being possessive, Ross is now self-centered and is actually stopping Rachel of reaching new heights with her career. But wait for it – there are indeed also reasons why Joey is a considerably better match. Not just reasons as to why Ross really isn’t.

3. Joey and Rachel make each other better, Ross and Rachel make each other worse

Let’s remember, Joey fell in love with her when pregnant. This reveals a level of maturity and understanding that Ross apparently never had.

It also reveals how the fleeting affair with Rachel actually changed the way Joey views women, in terms of his first girlfriend post-Rachel: Charlie. Not only that, but Rachel actually changes while living with Joey. She becomes more laid-back, and a subjective favorite for the thread’s author.

This then compliments the fact that Ross and Rachel’s relationships never saw any “chill” moments. It was always perfect TV, high in emotion and incredibly fraught. Willett argues that a relationship with Joey would be one that cares for Rachel’s feelings, ambitions and worth.

She finally brings the argument to a close by highlighting the inherent differences that face Ross and Joey. Not only are they different in terms of the way they treat Rachel, but also in the way that they view her – could both men actually love the idea of a different person?

So there we have it – the mind-bending, life-changing theory of what could have been between Rachel and Joey in Friends. But hey, if we carry on with the La La Land analogy, perhaps they do end up together in a vintage-looking montage of a parallel reality at the end of the movie. Dare to dream, eh?

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